Tag: attitude

What I Learned From Leaving Things Unresolved

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Last week, I wrote about overthinking an unresolved situation and using one question to stop the loop: “Do I have new information?” You can read that post here A few days later, I finally did get new information. Nothing dramatic. Just a small sign that things were moving again. I felt relieved. But I was not particularly excited. That reaction taught me more than I expected. When communication changes, it is easy to treat the silence itself as an answer. […]

I did almost nothing today.

person lying on sofa chair face covered with notebook

Or at least, that was how it felt. I stayed in bed rolling around with one of my cats until noon. I went out for lunch. I vacuumed. I played with my new vacuum, because yes, a new vacuum deserves playtime when you bought it at a good deal. I mopped the floor sometime around 4 or 5pm. I had plans. I wanted to prepare some content for the coming weeks. I thought about bringing one of the cats out […]

Maybe Silence Is Just Silence

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I realised something slightly uncomfortable recently. When I don’t reply to someone, I know exactly why. But when someone doesn’t reply to me, suddenly my brain wants an investigation. There is one topic a friend keeps bringing up in our group chat that I simply don’t enjoy engaging with. I still reply to her about other things. I’m not angry with her. I don’t dislike her. I simply stopped replying whenever the conversation goes back to that topic. Then I […]

When Other People’s Contradictions Get Under My Skin

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A recent cat show made me realize something about myself. It wasn’t the judging.It wasn’t the results.It wasn’t even my own experience. It was reading other people’s posts afterwards. One person talked about how uncomfortable cat shows were. Another focused heavily on the hidden costs and how little they received in return. As I read them, I noticed myself getting irritated. My first thought was simple. “You chose to join.” Nobody forced anyone to enter a cat show. If you […]

Why Some People’s “Excited Sharing” Secretly Irritates Us

woman talking on the telephone

Recently, I realised I kept feeling oddly irritated whenever a friend excitedly shared her learning journey in a group chat. In this case, she had just started learning something I had learned few years back. She kept sharing discoveries, thoughts, and updates with enthusiasm. Objectively, nothing was wrong. But internally, I kept thinking:“Why does this feel so extra?” Then came the guilt:“Am I being mean?”“Am I jealous?”“Am I cold?” The deeper I analysed myself, the more uncomfortable I became. After […]

Not Every Ask Deserves Your Energy

scrabble tiles on white surface

The other intrusive thought this week came after my encounter with a cat feeder in my area. She was upset because one of the community cats she feeds looked sick and weak. She told me and another rep from a welfare group that she felt depressed because of this. She then insisted we need to help the cat and conveniently shifted the responsibility to us. She said she did not know how to bring the cat to a clinic. She […]

Week 10 entry in 2023

New change doesn’t necessarily means a better change.That’s what I feel lately.I miss the old wordpress where it doesn’t have blocks, where it’s just paragraph. Maybe it’s just me feeling sentimental about oldies as currently Tiktok FYP is full of 90s boybands making comeback. Did you know that Spice Girls was 25 years ago? Gosh~ Had a catch up this weekend with friends who is going to go back to US as company is pulling expats to go back to […]

Which team are you at?

“I’m team Canon”, “I’m team Nikon” or “I’m team android”, “I’m team iOS” and so on. This is quite common bickering back then among me and my friends. To the extent we call this “our religion”, depending on the community, ie, photography, mobile phone, etc. Come to think of it now, I feel silly yet I had good times debating those with my friends. But, out there this can be quite nasty. Some keyboard warriors just bashed others and look […]