What I Learned From Leaving Things Unresolved

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Last week, I wrote about overthinking an unresolved situation and using one question to stop the loop: “Do I have new information?” You can read that post here A few days later, I finally did get new information. Nothing dramatic. Just a small sign that things were moving again. I felt relieved. But I was not particularly excited. That reaction taught me more than I expected. When communication changes, it is easy to treat the silence itself as an answer. […]

I did almost nothing today.

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Or at least, that was how it felt. I stayed in bed rolling around with one of my cats until noon. I went out for lunch. I vacuumed. I played with my new vacuum, because yes, a new vacuum deserves playtime when you bought it at a good deal. I mopped the floor sometime around 4 or 5pm. I had plans. I wanted to prepare some content for the coming weeks. I thought about bringing one of the cats out […]

Do You Want Honest Feedback or a General Reaction?

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Here is an uncomfortable fact. Sometimes people ask, “What do you think?” when they are not prepared for an honest answer. Recently, a friend sent three videos to our group chat and asked for our thoughts. I watched the first video and felt nothing. Since I did not understand what the video was trying to achieve, I asked about its purpose. Was it meant to introduce the person? Educate viewers? Promote a product? She explained the videos were meant for […]

Why Team Chara Cats Doesn’t Need One Niche

Sometimes I wonder if Team Chara Cats is a random project. One day it’s a 10-second Reel of somepawdy doing something silly. Another day it’s a product review. Then suddenly mii (me) is posting about FIV, nutrition, cat shows, or something else mii spent too much time reading about. And every time, the same question comes back. What is this account supposed to be? Educational?Cute cats?Multi-cat household chaos?Reviews? At some point, I realised I was treating “niche” like it meant […]

Maybe Silence Is Just Silence

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I realised something slightly uncomfortable recently. When I don’t reply to someone, I know exactly why. But when someone doesn’t reply to me, suddenly my brain wants an investigation. There is one topic a friend keeps bringing up in our group chat that I simply don’t enjoy engaging with. I still reply to her about other things. I’m not angry with her. I don’t dislike her. I simply stopped replying whenever the conversation goes back to that topic. Then I […]

Most of the time, I’m not fighting reality. I’m fighting the story I made up.

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One thing I’ve been noticing recently is this. Whenever something keeps replaying in my head, it’s rarely because of what happened. It’s because of the story I wrote about what happened. A comment on social media. An interaction at work. A disagreement. Feedback from a cat show judge. They all have one thing in common. The actual event usually takes less than a minute. The replay in my head lasts much longer. For example, I recently found myself getting irritated […]

Conan Was Never Meant to Be a Show Cat

A thought has been sitting with me over the past few days. Conan was sold as a companion pet. Not because he wasn’t a good cat, but because he wasn’t considered a show prospect. Yet somehow, he earned his Premier title. That made me look at his journey differently. Maybe he’s a companion pet… plus plus. Not a top show cat. Not the obvious choice for the ring. But good enough to stand alongside purpose-bred show cats and earn points. […]

When Other People’s Contradictions Get Under My Skin

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A recent cat show made me realize something about myself. It wasn’t the judging.It wasn’t the results.It wasn’t even my own experience. It was reading other people’s posts afterwards. One person talked about how uncomfortable cat shows were. Another focused heavily on the hidden costs and how little they received in return. As I read them, I noticed myself getting irritated. My first thought was simple. “You chose to join.” Nobody forced anyone to enter a cat show. If you […]