It can be related to something you want, or perhaps your feeling.
The most common “pretend” for me is pretending that I’m okay. Sometimes because of physical condition, i.e. sick, or emotional, when things are just overwhelming.
Pretend can be about feeling too, that you don’t like it, but you decided to hold it for the sake of other party.
But whatever pretend it is, it’s not healthy. When something is building up, it will explode sooner or later. Can be wayyyyy later too. And when that happened, it might be too late to react subjectively.
This week, I learned something new, that when we face something unexpected, try to react as “oh, really?” .. than “uh oh”.
Both are reacting to something we don’t expect, but “oh, really” will make us seeing it as “I acknowledge this new information and let’s think how we can move forward with this”. To certain extent.
Might not be easy to do at first. But I decided to give it a try.
But the very first thing to do is to acknowledge the situation. Rather than shoving the situation under the carpet. Don’t you think?
