Lesson from life

Some people may give you hard times, but how you react to it it’s up to you. You may ponder why the other party behaves like that. And most of the times, it’s just a waste of energy. It’s either you accept them as they are or leave them.

The challenge is if you’re working with them for accomplishing a project as a volunteer (unlike in work environment where people has more commitment to it). But, I’ll take it as my fault because I made a decision to work with them.

This recent experience brings back my memories in my university time when I had to work with certain people for a school festival. It’s known that this person A is unwanted; most of the other team didn’t want A to be inside for many reasons. But, I saw some potential in A, so I decided to take A in. However, after trying with many different ways seems none of them is working. One of my best friend asked me whether I still saw the potential in A? My best friend thought that I was too positive, so I wasn’t realistically assessing A.

We finished the school festival and, to be honest, I couldn’t even remember who A was now. But the lesson learnt and my best friend remark remained.

Back to my current situation. This person, B, whom I worked with now was highly recommended by another friend. That friend told me that B has potential in this and that. I didn’t have many chances to work with B before but most of people are having same thought about B, that B has some issues. And, I decided to take B in. I thought the same when I took A in, those people can be wrong.

Apparently, I was wrong, again. We had big argument early this year and B denied all my attempts for having a good talk to sort things out.

So here are the 2 major points I learned:

  1. Not all has the chivalry to fight and move on. So, pick how are you going to deal with them.
  2. Regardless what are other people said or recommend, ask yourself if you’re going to regret the decision you made, if there is a slight no, trust it. It’s ok to miss the chance to work with the other party at that time because there will be better times to work with them at different time.

Lastly, one of my best friend used to mock me because I enjoy to be in a “fight”. I told my friend that when you’re having a fight with other party, you’ll know better the sides that usually not visible to people. I think I have at least a fight with my best friends (some of them are just small cat fights but I think I had few big ones haha) but we always manage to have a good talk and then move on. But I also have good friends which don’t have to go through a fight too. (hey I like peace)

Anyway, it’s just a way to learn more about other people. I’m not promoting violence, ha! 😀

Learn something, learn more

There is a saying, never too old to learn anything, and I think, it sinks well in my personality. Even though I’m not in school or actively studying as full time student anymore, I’m still learning new things every now and then. It leads from my curiosity on certain things. I will spend time to research on it, discuss it with friends, admire it, then I usually ask myself “Shall I take it more seriously? Like by taking lessons?” And most of the time the answer is “Let’s do it.”

There are some cases when I don’t pursue it any further after completing the basic level because I don’t have time or any other reason, for example learning Korean. Or I have to stop or pause doing my current interest in order to give me time to practice or make time for the newer one, for example taking photos.

One take away point from all the learning experiences is, I become more and more appreciate other people with their different skills. So, it’s like playing a game (I still like game simile) there are fighters, healers, supplies or others and they will work together as a team.

Although that if you see it from the other end, people with multiple skills are more stand out than the others. It depends on the person, doesn’t it?

So, if you have something that you want to do or learn for quite sometime, I’d encourage you to do it. Each of the learning will expand your horizon which will enrich your life too.

Older or wiser, you choose

This trip was special. I celebrated my birthday with new (close) friends, on another country adventuring. Hong Kong is the fourth country I have my birthday.

Birthday Cake

Usually on my birthday, my mom will cook mee-suah (面线) for me. It’s been a tradition in my family to eat noodles on our special occasion, such as birthday. Noodle means longevity by the way. Since I studied in Melbourne before, my mom can’t do it but she still asked me to make my own or at least I still eat it. So, it’s part of birthday routine I had many years.

Continue reading “Older or wiser, you choose”

Living virtually

The first part of my trip experience will share about experience living in two world. Hope that it doesn’t sound cheesy but two world I meant here are real world and online world.

Continue reading “Living virtually”

Lessons learnt from the road

One of the reasons I didn’t blog much last month is I was on a week overseas trip. There are some lessons learned within this period. I’d like to make note of it (into different post), as well as sharing it.

This is the first time, I write a series of posts. So, I’m looking forward to hear what you think about it too.

*UPDATE:

  1. Living virtually
  2. Having fun is harmless, really
  3. Older or wiser, you choose..
  4. Tolerance tested

Lessons from life

I feared being alone
until I learned to like myself.

I feared failure
until I realized that I only fail when I don’t try.

I feared success
until I realized that I had to try in order to be happy with myself.

I feared people’s opinions
until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.

I feared rejection
until I learned to have faith in myself.

I feared pain
until I learned that it’s necessary for growth.

I feared the truth
until I saw the ugliness in lies.

I feared life
until I experienced its beauty.

I feared death
until I realized that it’s not an end, but a beginning.

I feared my destiny
until I realized that I had the power to change my life.

I feared hate
until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.

I feared love
until it touched my heart, making the darkness fade into endless sunny days.

I feared ridicule
until I learned how to laugh at myself.

I feared growing old
until I realized that I gained wisdom every day.

I feared the future
until I realized that life just kept getting better.

I feared the past
until I realized that it could no longer hurt me.

I feared the dark
until I saw the beauty of the starlight.

I feared the light
until I learned that the truth would give me strength.

I feared change
until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly.

-Anonymous-