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What is your style?
In: personal
10 Mar 2010
Lately, I’ve been into discussion with a friend about my blog. He recommended a blog to me to read the week before. The blog is written by Singaporean girl which is mainly describing her daily activities. Her language is light and simple; some of the story are funny and some are quite provoking but it describes her personality; the bottom line is the blog is fun to follow.
On the other hand, he told me that in general, my blog is a little bit to follow because I used some difficult terms inside my post. He needs to look up on certain words so that he can understand what I’m trying to say. Later on that day, his opinion re-surfaced into my mind. Well, I have a habit to think on several things at once, especially when I was nervous (related to my last post).
Later on, we discussed about others blogs too, that this person has this style and that person with that style. He asked me, what is my style then?
A thing called compromise
In: personal
9 Mar 2010Do you feel your stomach churn before your exam? Or before you have your big gig? Well, I do.
Thanks to a friend of mine; talking to him yesterday made me re-think the whole big picture, or should I say, my big picture.
Let’s go back to the nerveousness, most of the time before I had school presentation, exams, or meeting clients, or even teaching, I was nervous.
(some of my friends don’t believe it when I said so)
As I grow up and had my self talk moments, I can list the reasons:
- I’m a perfectionist. I like to get the best result. I want to give the best to others. (Another friend told me, sometimes I think too far and too much; because the other party don’t need it.)
- I’m a controller. I like to plan and I like to see things work like my scenario. Too bad life is not like that.
- I think too much what would other will say or think about me or my work.
So, the question I like to ask myself is. What am I going to do from this point? Do I just give up? Or do I want to change it?
There is a good quote that I read from a book titled “Personality Plus“,
we can’t change the rock, but we can change the shape.
When I was a kid, I was worried that I didn’t score well on my exams. When I was a student, I was nervous the morning I was about to have exams. When I was a lecturer, I was scared that I would become a fail lecturer.
I feel that I tend to worry a lot in my life. The main cause of my worry or nervous is, to pass a barrier or to jump out a barrier which is not even exist in reality but inside my mind. I tend to expect high of myself.
Later, I learn one important skill, compromising.
Compromising can balance out with our other traits, and more importantly, we enjoy the experience more than before. Or at least, it works for me 
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10 dreams to achieve in 2010
In: personal
4 Mar 2010Early this year when people were busy composing their new year resolution, I was still enjoying my new year doing nothing. It paid off, after a clean break I felt my head clearer and fresher to start a new. I have few pending task for my personal project which is my blog and my website. I made a plan to finish them but I haven’t had any idea at that time, what do I look in this year 2010.
Thinking about it for few weeks, now I know what I want. And, having another new year celebration gives me a second chance for it.
1. To be more professional in my work
2. To be more understanding to my friends, families and people around me
3. To be a better blogger which consistently blog, importantly, I’m going to achieve at least 75 posts for this year.
4. To improve my skills as web designer, keep aware about new technology and continuously learn to improve my skills
5. To be more responsible about my life and my work
6. To be more realistic on planning things or building my dreams
7. To discover more about myself, to accept me whoever I am, accept what are my likes and dislikes.
8. To be calmer, because panic will not solve the problem, and tackle problems one by one
9. To be consistent to achieve my goal, surely there will be ups and downs, but I will not waver
10. To be more confidence about myself
I notice that besides number 3, all of things I like to achieve are intangible dreams, so it may be more difficult to measure. This what a blog will help. Therefore, I’m looking forward to reach it!
Double Happiness
In: Uncategorized
14 Feb 2010For those whom celebrate lunar new year, Happy lunar new year
For those whom celebrate Valentine day, Happy Valentine day
Accomplishment
In: inspiration
12 Feb 2010Open my eyes, I turn myself over
Blink, I realize that today is still Friday
Look around and I saw my luggage around the corner
Thought that today is my flight day
The sky is still dark
Not even a dog bark
Turn on the wireless modem
And, turn on the comp
Read friends’ blogs
Could not deny of being jealous
For them who find their happiness
But told myself that I have my own as they have theirs
Somehow, a thought cross my mind at that time
about people buy presents for their loved ones
before going home on a special time
now i know why and wherefores
Look at the half filled luggage on the floor
Stun with the stuff I bought
Imagine to give that to people I care about
Hope that will make them happy, that’s the main idea
Feel sort of accomplishment
When I look back on my journey
When I make people happy
When I stumble a lot
Suddenly feel silly
About my jealousy
Then feel a little bit queasy
Should just take it easy
Ah..
Soon I’ll be in my sanctuary
to rest my weary soul
to be with people whom I grow with
to be happy for them
and to share my adventure
For those whom going home for celebrating Lunar New Year, have a safe journey.
Wish you to have a festive celebration with your family
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5 self asking question which help to motivate ourselves
In: inspiration
11 Feb 2010In my previous post, I listed how to tackle bad mood. One of them is recognizing the cause of it (writing my thought down). So, below is a short list of questions which help me to find out the cause.
1. Do I expect too much?
2. Do I enjoy what I’m doing?
3. Do I need it or do I want it?
4. Do I worry about the outcome?
5. Have I really done anything to achieve it?
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10 things to lift your mood up
In: how to
10 Feb 2010We surely have our ups and downs. We feel that we can conquer the world when we’re in a good mood. But, when we’re out of it, we felt that how unfair the world to us, we become grumpy, we do nasty things, we fight with other, or you just name it. So, I’d like to share some which works fo me when I had my downs:
1. Sleep
Most of the time, I read from an article that lack of sleep make people grumpy. When they are grumpy, they just see the fouls, the ugly, or the nasty things; they can’t see the other side of it, the beauty, the good, or the life time experience. When I was grumpy, I tend to see faults on almost anything; and I can’t do my work properly. So, I’ll take a rest, enough to regain my stamina, then I’ll continue the things I left before, with fresher minds and full stamina, so I can do it faster and more efficient.
2. Listen to music (and sing a long)
I like to listen to pop songs or instrumental musics; sometimes I sing the whole song too. It’s relieving.
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5 possible reasons for you to start blogging
In: inspiration
3 Feb 2010If you ever consider to own a blog and you put it aside afterward then you might like this. The reasons I like to blog are:
1. I like to take notes.
I found that taking note helps me to remember the lessons I just learn. Before blogging platforms were popular (or even before the Internet was a hit), I wrote quite a lot from daily activities to fiction. (yes, I even believe that I may be a writer one day) There are times when I need to tidy up my drawer, I saw my notes and I reread them. I found that I was so silly (most of the times) and surprised that I did that. So, those notes are proofs that I grow, learn and mature from day to day. And, knowing that is a prize for me, to keep me to be stronger and wiser.
2. I can straighten my thoughts before any interuptions.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy to be accompanied, but I lost track after interuptions. Well, I still need to improve my focus too though. This process is like making the thread inside my head straight. I can have many threads inside, and sometimes I work on different threads at once. Thus writing helps me a lot.
3. I like to play with words.
I don’t have particular language or literature studies. But I have great interest in language, I like to learn different way in expressing something.
4. I like to tell stories.
Having younger brother makes me used to tell him about many things.
5. Last one and most important is I wish to inspire others through my writing.
It’s a very big dream for me. It’s tge fact that everyone grows with differently like culture or live on the other side of the world. But there are chances to have similar problem. I always believe that the chances are still quite high. By sharing my thoughts or my experince, I will increase my chance to closer to my dream. I’m working it through.
In conclusion, if you want to have your own blog yet you keep hesitate to start or keep procrastinating, you may want to spend some time to contemplate what are the things that you like. It’s easier to do something that you like. Happy blogging!
5 books reading companion in 2009
In: recommendation
3 Feb 2010It’s not a new book yet some of them have been published years before, but below are books that I read on 2009:
- How to Get Things Done without Trying Too Hard, Richard Templar
- iCon Steve Jobs: The Greatest Second Act in the History of Business, Jeffrey S Young and William L Simon
- Have a Little Faith: A True Story, Mitch Albom
- The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch
- Veronica Decides to Die, Paulo Coelho
Plus one,
The Devil and Miss Prym, Paulo Coelho
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50 important things I achieved in 2009
In: personal
2 Feb 2010Inspired by some blogs I read that said one of many ways to feel good is appreciating what we have completed. Therefore, I’m going to list 50 things I achieved within last year which can be categorized into different groups:
On setting new adventure:
1. Quitting my job
I made a bold decision on late 2008, to quit from my work place. My parents, especially my father objected to it. He had his reason, recession just hit South East Asia countries. But in the end, my parents supported my decision.
2. Going abroad by myself
My next plan was looking for a job, of course. One of my best friend from university asked me whether I’m interested to work abroad. Since I have nothing to lose, I decided to give it a try.
3. Being closer to friends from the past
As an active student during my study made me know many people including my juniors. I’m not that close with them personally unless I worked with them for instance event committee although I’m making friends with them. Thankfully and unexpectedly they helped me a lot through the initial stage.
4. Making new friends
Part of new journey, I met lots of new friends. It’s friend of friend and so on. And yes, soon enough you’ll learn that how small the world is. The person that you just met, maybe know some people you have known. And somehow I’m happy to know it. It feels like you are still connected to your past, in a good way, which help you to keep your feet on the ground
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- What is your style?
- A thing called compromise
- 10 dreams to achieve in 2010
- Double Happiness
- Accomplishment
- 5 self asking question which help to motivate ourselves
- 10 things to lift your mood up
- 5 possible reasons for you to start blogging
- 5 books reading companion in 2009
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