Ideally we should ..

How often you say that inside your head? Or “by right, ..” and some other similar phrase. I have those moments last week which made me stress out because I want to do things in certain way and expecting certain result or outcome. But it didn’t happen. I was feeling down, demoralized and questioning myself if I do it right? To the extent that I kept messaging my friends in group chat. I lose my confident. The result was bad […]

About putting trust first

Trust is something you build on over time and earn. It’s not something you can just get from other people. I learned it from a comic book back then during my high school days. As I grow up, I have my moments when I tend to second guess people and doubt them. I feel worried if I need to trust people and they will disappoint me. So I decided to think all ways to prevent that. Some of my managers […]

Finding out what we do is the right thing to do

The first question popped is, how? I usually will go into a “cocoon” mode where I try to run all the possibilities in my head. Till my head is about to explode, then I’ll stop. Sometimes I’m quite satisfied with it. But sometimes I still not sure. Often I forget that if I discuss it with the right person, most of the times the solution is much simpler that what I have in mind. Then, the next question is, is […]

When everything is urgent, there is no urgency

I believe it also applies to importance of something. If everything is important, there is nothing important. Then the next question is, how do we prioritize? Some of the common prioritization which probably you had heard of are FIFO (First-In-First-Out), LIFO (Last-In-First-Out), or which task/project which will make your resume looks better (there is such thing), or by due date, or by complexity and many more. Almost the last week of the year, looking back, I was wondering where did […]

When did the last time you’re being honest to yourself?

It can be related to something you want, or perhaps your feeling. The most common “pretend” for me is pretending that I’m okay. Sometimes because of physical condition, i.e. sick, or emotional, when things are just overwhelming. Pretend can be about feeling too, that you don’t like it, but you decided to hold it for the sake of other party. But whatever pretend it is, it’s not healthy. When something is building up, it will explode sooner or later. Can […]

Distract, distraction and distracted

Do you feel to concentrate doing one thing is getting more and more difficult? If not, good on you. As I feel that more and more often. I tend to solve easier stuffs and procrastinate on the more difficult stuffs. Unfortunately, the more difficult stuffs often more important. Sometimes I can’t stand to have some quiet time, I need to have some background noises to bring my concentration. However it can distract me too from what I should be doing. […]

Thought of 1st Dec

There was a saying, you’ll never know what someone has gone through, so as much as possible, choose to be kind than right. Someone might be saying a very mean thing or bitter, but we never know what had happened to that person. It happened to me, sometimes when I was having a series of bad events in a day, I feel that I lost my patience, I just want to lash it out and all. But I also realised […]

Thought on Nov 19

The trips will feel longer when you do it the first time. For example, when you’re going through a road for the first time. It has the excitement as we are observing all the new things we see. So, that might be the reason, you think? The more you travel to different countries and places the more you see that they have different challenges.What you see is a huge problem in your country or place where you live might seems […]