Why we wanted to become others?

Wolf: “Asemu, do you want to be x-rounder that bad?” Asemu: “yes, otherwise I can’t surpass my dad.” Don’t you ever jealous with someone who has special talent, which you don’t have? Usually it happens when we need to go through a long journey to get what we want while the other party doesn’t really do much like us. Wolf: “Well, you don’t need to Asemu. Just be yourself and be the best with whatever you have.” Sometimes we forget […]

Growing a relationship

I want to be the person who when I look back, I can tell myself “oh yeah, I did that in the past.” There was an issue has been bugging me for months recently. It will be easier if I can say it out loud to the person I’m having the issue with when it’s not as complicated as it is. However, as an adult, I think it’s not wise either to just saying “I don’t like this from you”. […]

Kids perspective vs ours

I had Gunbro in my iPhone game folder. Since it’s been sometime I haven’t played it, I wanted to continue my progress. But I was surprised that my money was halved of it used to be, my grenades was zeroed, but I noticed that my level is increased. Well, since I’m partnering with a friend, it’s quite normal to earn experience from her playing too. Oh well, I realize that not only that, I also have new gun that I […]

Learning guitar

Start doing something, or else be content with your status quo I just recently started my guitar class. And as a guitar novice, I have to go through all the hardships of learning guitar, i.e. pain at my finger tips, inflexibility of my wrists, stress to get the right tempo, etc. I’m not musical genius nor have musical experience before. What drives me to learn guitar is, I want to relax myself when I’m stress by playing guitar. (or so […]

Playing in RPG called life

I wrote several times about playing RPG in the past, because I feel that there are similar traits between those two: You have attributes, i.e. intelligence, agility, strength, etc. You have missions to accomplish. Each of the mission you solved will contribute to your experience. When you reach certain level of experience, your level will be up. The higher your level, the harder for you to accumulate experience. Being in a group will help you to grow more, with guidance […]

Managing others expectation, managing ours

Managing other’s expectation is hard, but don’t you think that managing our own expectation is harder? I found that it’s harder to manage my own expectation. One of my benchmark is I have to do more or give more than what is set for other people. For example, if someone can swim for 10 laps, I will aim 12 laps; if someone can deliver the work within 3 days, I have to be able to deliver it for 2 days. […]

Some wild thoughts

– sometimes I miss one thing from my childhood, to be able to fight with your friend then make up as if we didn’t fight at all. – its easier to work when people trust you, but you need to prove it. That means both parties need to understand and compromise each other strength and weakness. However if you think you did your best and you still don’t get what you want. Just see it as, they are not for […]

Welcoming a new century

*it should be decade (thanks to Adi) This morning, I was flipboard-ing and stumble into a very interesting article from smashing magazine. The title was “Your ego is a bad designer“, and even though it’s about web design the author message is actually applicable into broader context. After reading it, somehow it stuck for a while inside my head. I had a thought about this before, and to be honest, I think I still have difficulties in keeping it away. So, […]