Breaking out from our shell

Last week we have a year end dinner with colleagues and as usual, there was an award presentation for long service with the company.

One of them is our top leader.

In his acceptance speech, he said that he was quite laid back person until his wife decided to quite her work, to focus on their family. He added that his wife was having a good career, better than him. At that point of time.

Her sacrifice made him able to focus on his career. To evolve into the current him.

I find his sharing about earlier part of his life journey was quite inspirational.

At that party I asked myself, when will I have that moment? To have the heart to leave some of the things I really like to do now and focus on the few activities only.

I find it easy to adopt a new thing, make it to be a habit, but I have difficulties cutting them down. Eventually I dropped a few to date, through “natural selection”. As the time goes and I don’t have time to do it. And mostly my logical self made me to do the important things first.

It also reminded me of what one of my friend told me sometime back. That at certain stage of my life, I’ll turn into someone who is boring and safe. He sees me as someone who thinks life is like adventure and big playground.

(Phew)

I haven’t found the answer yet, whether I’ll change quite drastically, or when I’ll have that moment, or what kind of person I’ll be in 5 or 10 years time.

But one thing I know, life is like running a marathon. It’s a long run. Rushing it won’t help me to reach it faster as I might ran out gas earlier and walk at much slower pace to complete it.

Do you have similar experience like this? Did you find the answer? How did you overcome it?

The essence for our growth

I: Isn’t it fun getting better at the job?

C: it is

I: isn’t that the main strand of your career that you’re getting better at the job

C: well, it could only get better, it couldn’t get worse

Inspiration of the week is a chat by Cate (C) Blanchett and Sir Ian (I) McKellen in Actors on Actors show (link)

They were discussing about things they are not so good at (geez, they are so humble, o’rite). Cate replied Ian that she feels they just need to be asked by someone to do it (as a challenge for themselves)

In imaginary world, if I’m an actor, I think my bosses will be the director of the show. They are the one who set the movie direction. And I just need to do my best as certain role in the movie.

I’m guessing that directors also have their own unique style, perhaps like Quentin Tarantino or Michael Bay or Peter Jackson.

Clashes are unavoidable and uncontrollable, but our respond to it is controllable. As there was a conflict happened this week and I can’t help to keep thinking about it. I kept asking why to myself to the extent it hounded me.

However listening to Cate and Ian, I feel that after it’s all happened in the past, their present self can just laugh at it. They grew from their past self.

The image of 7 deadly sins comic starts to appear in my mind when I was hounded by the incident. That I was activating Pride and Wrath in me. And what I need to activate is Acceptance now. So, don’t feel angry or sad, just be better. One step at a time.

Thing happens for a reason. As always.

Ask and you’ll be given. Whether it’s something important for your growth or the answer to your problem.

What do you think?

Extra note:

Doesn’t time feel so fast passing by when you are in the last quarter of the year?

I flipped through my agenda and find that October inspiration page was blank. Although I had my October filled with activities.

November, on the other hand, has been giving me valuable lessons. It also the M-1 for the big event early Dec.

A note to self

I want to have all the good things in life
If life is always up, isn’t going to be a flat life?

Why this person have this? Why that person have that? Why I can’t get it too?
Why do you want your life to be the same as other person. When you think it that way, you wouldn’t have interesting life

12 May 2013

Kids perspective vs ours

I had Gunbro in my iPhone game folder. Since it’s been sometime I haven’t played it, I wanted to continue my progress. But I was surprised that my money was halved of it used to be, my grenades was zeroed, but I noticed that my level is increased. Well, since I’m partnering with a friend, it’s quite normal to earn experience from her playing too.

Oh well, I realize that not only that, I also have new gun that I never bought and despite my grenade was gone plus a booster pack is in my inventory.

My friend said maybe it’s a bug, and why don’t I submitted a bug report. So I did as advised.

Only yesterday it struck my mind that recently I lent my iPhone for my friend’s kids. Because they just simply too bored at a gathering, they need to keep busy while we were having a chat. At first they play Plants versus Zombies until quite some time. That’s another possible scenario which explains all the oddities happened to my game progress.

I told my friend about it, she said it’s possible too. Because she experienced it too in the past. Oh well.. It’s not a bug it’s just my friend’s kids played it.

Devastated by the state, there is nothing I can do to gain that state back. It’s all happened in the past. Trying to console myself, I took this as another learning points:

1. It’s human nature to cling into the past, can’t let go and long for it.

Yes that’s true. It’s hard to let go things that we care. I know that in my situation is only a game state (gamers will know). However, we can practice to let go. It’s doable. Well, in the same time we can also practice compassion to those kids. Hehe..

2. To live in present moment

As we grow older, we learn to save or keep good things in case bad things happened. But kids don’t see it that way. They just think present moment. In my case, I think I can understand my parents feeling a little bit more that they save money, set it aside for me (and my brother), and we just demanded that we want this toy or that toy that time.. (Sorry mom and dad if I (we) over did it in the past).

PS: I’m really devastated, all the war bucks and grenades I carefully kept ..T.T

PPS: However, after I tell my friend about it, now I can only shake my head and laugh together with her. Because that’s what kids do.

Trap by a routine

My weekly schedule is:

  • Monday is clearing some pending stuffs from last week or new emails on that day. Normally I will feel beaten up after I reach home.
  • Tuesday, I will head to the gym in the morning, before going to office (sometimes needs some coffee or tea to perk me up) and I post a blog after I reach home.
  • Wednesday, it’s time to revise my Japanese, do the homework or simply watch movie and think what should I write for my next post.
  • Thursday, another gym and blog day.
  • Friday, it’s time to have some fun after work.
  • Saturday, it’s either meeting friends (movies, taking pictures or post process my last photo hunting) or doing some house cleaning.
  • Sunday, my Japanese class.

I tweeted everyday on the week. I tweeted mostly about technology, design and user interface related topic or simply trends. Sometimes related with personal development. I use scheduler (so boss, don’t worry I’m not facing twitter.com all day long). It also means I read the article beforehand. Occasionally, I use twitter to communicate with my friends too.

I added some and I removed some, my schedule stays some and goes some. Some of my friends told me that I have a way to keep myself busy with things.

Okay I admit that I have a difficulties to stay idle. But it doesn’t mean that I can’t be idle. When I’m idle, I do really idle and not doing anything. Basically I just stone. (and I’m still receiving complains from friends for this).

Different people has different life style, different preferences, or put it simple, we are just a unique being with some similarities. But one thing I know is, we are all easily trapped by a routine. It may be difficult to make a routine, but it’s harder to get rid of it.

I’m not saying that routine is bad. Routine has it’s benefit. For example, for a people like me who likes to jump around and barely finish something, a routine will  help me to finish what I’m doing. To make me more consistent.

On the other hand, when we do it repetitively and unconsciously, it will make us not aware about what is happened around us. When that’s happened, we will be someone who is not present at the present moment, someone who lost their creativity, someone who just a robot or machine, or many more.

Here is the deal. We can avoid it.

Simply, by changing our schedule.

Some of my friends said that it’s very stressful to change our schedule. I said, it will be more stressful if you change it every now and then. Change them occasionally, let it settle and once you started to get used to it, shift some of your schedule again.

To conclude, if you feel trap by your routine, try to change it first.

The day when I had too much surprises

From draft post many months ago..

If someone asked you a question, how many times within a day you have negative thinking towards someone or something? What is your answer?While you were thinking your answer, I’d like to share mine with some stories.

Negative Thought

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Is blogging useless?

One day one of my friend asked me during lunch time, what would I think about blogging. Well I have a blog and I like to blog. The reason is I can share my thought and with hope to inspire others. How did I start to blog?

blog

It started when I was on my final year in high school. I was inspired, many times, by reading stories from Chicken Soup books. Most of the story are short and simple, based on day to day experience, as if my friend experienced it and share it to me. So I was thinking since simple stories can also inspire other people, why don’t I share mine too.

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Capturing the best picture

As a refresher in between some personal development post I usually I write, I would like to share a story. Some weeks ago, I went to a short hike with group of friends. There were 6 of us, three girls and three boys. Almost all of us bring camera, from pocket camera to digital SLR camera (I counted out mobile phone camera in this case, although that some mobile phone can produce not so bad picture)

Handersen's Wave

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