When we say we should, it means we think that we are right and others are wrong. (Or worse, the universe is at fault)
And what happened next? Disappointment.
The rain should stop because I want to go out. It may happen, but most likely won’t happen. (Unless you’re Bruce Almighty, perhaps)
I should be able to find taxi because I’m in a rush. It may happen, but rain comes. (Sometimes, it’s hard to get into a cab when it rains in Singapore)
I should be able to reach the place early by public transport because tonight I’ll sleep early. What happen is, your neighbor made a noise and you can’t sleep early as planned and you’re rushing for your appointment.
And many more “should”s.
When we say we should, we are imposing our belief to the universe, wanting it to work according what we want to.
In his book, Andrew Matthew said, think that I want A, but if B happened, it’s ok too. Therefore we won’t be easily upset over small things.
So, use “should” carefully 😉 and more importantly to have our expectation right.
Count what you have now
Don’t count what you don’t have
Find that you have so much
Those words are from opening song of Japanese drama titled “Around 40“. The title of the song is Shiawase no Monosashi (幸せのものさし) by Takeuchi Mariya (竹内 まりや). What I like about this song is, the melody is quite bright and the words are very encouraging.
About the drama, it’s light and entertaining. It’s about some women in their 40s with their different lifestyle (and problems). The main actress for this drama is Amami Yuki (天海祐希). (I hardly have favourite actress, but she’s in my favourite list). Even though the drama is light, but it delivers a good message in each episode. I’ll probably will share some after I finished watching the drama.
Or have you seen it? What do you think?
Side note: I’m watching this during my commute to work at this moment. Here is the song in YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu79kYCRThY
“If you don’t know how to manage social media, doesn’t mean not using it is the only option that you have.”
This post is my rant about some of my friends who refuses to use social media for example Facebook. Their reason is they don’t want to be “stalked” by certain people. And the reason of my rant is I’m puzzled with some of my special friends thinking; they make me spend more time in sharing photos, announcing events or broadcasting updates in a group.
I know social media presence can be double edged sword if you don’t manage it wisely. Technology is just a mere tool which helps us to work more efficiently. Good or bad is defined by the users. In it’s early days there maybe lots of security issues, but it’s getting better. And again, it depends what are the information you put in your profile.
They also worried about photo tagging and so on. Well, there is also an option to evaluate photo you’re tagged in. If you don’t like it, just remove it. Or tell your friend ahead that you prefer not to be tagged. As a person who likes to take photos during events, I have ethics not to post unglamorous photo of my friends, however if it’s funny, I’ll email them personally. Unless you know your friend very well and they don’t mind about it, then why not. Having some goofs photos show you that you have fun personality.
I’m not promoting Facebook in this post, however I like their features (groups and events). It’s easy to create events, broadcast event updates in the event page. Although I realize that the confirmation power is still somewhat weak. There are many cases when people click “Attend” and they didn’t turn up in the event. They need to be more discipline about it.
I don’t see their reason is strong enough for not to have social media profile. If you don’t know how to manage it, ask around.
Lastly, maybe it’s only me because I’m more inclined to technology than others.