On making decision

If you have something keep bugging you for quite sometime, and what makes you hesitating for doing it is not because money or time, then you should ask yourself why.

Some of the common reason are:

  1. Scared, because you’re doing it alone
  2. Not confident, because you don’t want to make yourself look bad
  3. Worried, what others think about it

Or at least, those reasons used to be with me.

Anyway, I have a girl friend who likes to ask me or other friends, should I do this or that. We gave our answers and thoughts, she nodded and we had discussions. Then a few weeks later, she came to us and asked the same questions. We still entertained her. This became a cycle, or a pattern.

At first, I’m not sure if the purpose she’s asking was to create a conversation, or she’s a totally indecisive person.

Once I told her, when she thinks of something, weigh it, consider it, think about it, then make a decision. Once you make a decision, don’t look back. In that way, you can allow some other stuffs to think about.

Thinking carefully about it doesn’t mean you need to think about it over and over again. Set a limit for you to think about it, make a decision after weighing the pro and cons.

 

  • Although I don’t talk to others about it, I think quite similar to your friend. And it’s usually because of all 3 explanations you gave here. Slowly, very slowly, I am trying to work through these feelings/explanations and keep on heading toward my goals.

    • Well, maybe it’s just me who is quite impatien. In fact I used to be indesicive as well, until a certain extent that thinking about it over and over again didn’t help me to get it, instead I will become more stress and depressed about it.
      But, different people may have different way of handling their situation, however I still think that don’t brood over it too much. So that we still have some space for other stuffs.

  • Although I don’t talk to others about it, I think quite similar to your friend. And it’s usually because of all 3 explanations you gave here. Slowly, very slowly, I am trying to work through these feelings/explanations and keep on heading toward my goals.

    • Well, maybe it’s just me who is quite impatien. In fact I used to be indesicive as well, until a certain extent that thinking about it over and over again didn’t help me to get it, instead I will become more stress and depressed about it.
      But, different people may have different way of handling their situation, however I still think that don’t brood over it too much. So that we still have some space for other stuffs.