Loving ourselves

I like this idea when I heard it for the first time.

Not everyone can accept this, some of my friend feel that it’s a selfish thing to do.

I don’t try to sell this concept, but I think we can think about it. Why?

Self Love

I’d like to use one real world example. When we’re on a plane, the flight attendants will do some demonstration about safety. How we buckle up our belts, point out the emergency exits and it also includes what should we do when the cabin pressure is dropped. Oxygen mask will drop from its compartment above our head. They will show is how to use it and they said, please do it to yourself before helping others including children.

I don’t see that it is a selfish thing to love ourselves. Because by taking care ourselves, we can do more, including helping other people.

But it’s difficult to love ourselves, because the common concept is to sacrifice for other and disregard our happiness or safety.

So, sometimes what I do is, I see myself as someone who needs help. I should help me by taking care of myself so that I can solve “me” problem.

  • sen

    you have to be able to help yourself before helping others. That is not called selfish 🙂

  • John Doe

    I totally agree w/ this, Kar~
    I’ve got a couple of examples:

    * Ajahn Brahm once referred to one of the core and fundamental Christian teachings: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” But he added: “no more, no less”. This is very important — not to love others less nor more than yourself, simply because: you are also valueable to your relatives of friends: losing you or seeing you hurt leaves wounds in their heart.

    * General Patton said: “No poor bastard ever won a war by dying for his country. He won it by making the other bastards die for theirs”. For me, a good soldier is the one who understands how much he or she is capable of doing and what a great loss his or her country would suffer if he or she dies.

    For me, there’s always the right time and place for martyrdom.

    But martyr-complex, on the other hand: is nothing more than just a disguise for one of the 7 deadly sins: “pride”